A fellow Bravo wife told me that she was asked how she can stay faithful during a deployment. For those of you who aren't married to the military/haven't been through a deployment please heed my advice: don't ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER, ask an Army Wife that. Ever. Here's why:
We all hear those stories- girl sends soldier off to war. Girl finds new boyfriend and takes off with boyfriend and soldier's money. Yes, it happens. Almost every deployment it happens.. and yes, it's despicable. But it's a small percentage of people that do it, and chances are the person you know who's husband is deployed is NOT planning, or even tempted to do that. Chances are this Army Wife married her soldier because she loves him. Chances are this Army Wife respects, adores and cherishes her husband. When you've got all of those factors in a relationship distance is irrelevant when it comes to fidelity. If a girl's going to cheat on her guy it's not BECAUSE he's deployed. Sure, it makes it easier. But understand that it in absolutely no way makes it tempting.
My friend's exact words were, "The thought never even crosses my mind. I get tempted by chocolate, shoes, and handbags- not by men. I have so much on my mind. I have 3 men on my mind 24/7 and I don't have room for any others and don't want any others" (she's a mom of 2 boys;)
She also said told me she didn't understand why people would throw their marriage away so easily unless it was in trouble in the first place.
And that's just it. If someone is cheating it's an indication of a troubled marriage (or person, I guess). And that applies to military couples as well. Yes, there is loneliness. Yes, we miss that affection, falling asleep beside that warm body, and, you know, uhum, the other stuff.. but that doesn't make us want to cheat. It only intensifies feelings that are already there in some. Again, deployments in absolutely no way make cheating tempting!!
Hubs compared it to a thief. He said if someone wants that stereo out of your car he's going to take it. If the window is down it makes it a lot easier. A cheater is going to cheat. Whether a soldier is away or at home, she's going to cheat. All that distance does it make it easier.
I am so incredibly blessed to have the marriage that I do. I'm madly in love with my best friend. We have absolute faith in each other and a foundation that can sustain anything. And when you have a rock solid marriage and you make each other happy the temptation just isn't there. Distance or no distance. It's that simple.
On another note: I am loving the e-mails and messages I'm getting from you guys!! A lot of you are asking for more boxes and I promise I'll have some soon! I've got all sorts of ideas, just not so much time:/ Soon, though!!!
M.
We all hear those stories- girl sends soldier off to war. Girl finds new boyfriend and takes off with boyfriend and soldier's money. Yes, it happens. Almost every deployment it happens.. and yes, it's despicable. But it's a small percentage of people that do it, and chances are the person you know who's husband is deployed is NOT planning, or even tempted to do that. Chances are this Army Wife married her soldier because she loves him. Chances are this Army Wife respects, adores and cherishes her husband. When you've got all of those factors in a relationship distance is irrelevant when it comes to fidelity. If a girl's going to cheat on her guy it's not BECAUSE he's deployed. Sure, it makes it easier. But understand that it in absolutely no way makes it tempting.
My friend's exact words were, "The thought never even crosses my mind. I get tempted by chocolate, shoes, and handbags- not by men. I have so much on my mind. I have 3 men on my mind 24/7 and I don't have room for any others and don't want any others" (she's a mom of 2 boys;)
She also said told me she didn't understand why people would throw their marriage away so easily unless it was in trouble in the first place.
And that's just it. If someone is cheating it's an indication of a troubled marriage (or person, I guess). And that applies to military couples as well. Yes, there is loneliness. Yes, we miss that affection, falling asleep beside that warm body, and, you know, uhum, the other stuff.. but that doesn't make us want to cheat. It only intensifies feelings that are already there in some. Again, deployments in absolutely no way make cheating tempting!!
Hubs compared it to a thief. He said if someone wants that stereo out of your car he's going to take it. If the window is down it makes it a lot easier. A cheater is going to cheat. Whether a soldier is away or at home, she's going to cheat. All that distance does it make it easier.
I am so incredibly blessed to have the marriage that I do. I'm madly in love with my best friend. We have absolute faith in each other and a foundation that can sustain anything. And when you have a rock solid marriage and you make each other happy the temptation just isn't there. Distance or no distance. It's that simple.
On another note: I am loving the e-mails and messages I'm getting from you guys!! A lot of you are asking for more boxes and I promise I'll have some soon! I've got all sorts of ideas, just not so much time:/ Soon, though!!!
M.
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